Let’s be real—talking about what you really want in the bedroom (or even outside it) can feel like walking a tightrope in heels. You don’t want to offend, overwhelm, or make things weird. But guess what? You deserve to feel good, heard, and fully satisfied—without the cringe.

At Sweetums, we believe that confidence starts with communication. Whether you're freshening up with our flavored feminine wipes or rolling on our kissable fragrances, we’re all about helping you feel good in your skin and in your relationships.

Here’s how to talk to your partner about what you want—without it turning into a full-blown awkward-fest.

1. Start Outside the Bedroom (Seriously)

When you're naked and vulnerable, it’s harder to speak up. So bring it up when you're both relaxed—on a walk, over dinner, or while snuggling on the couch. Keep the tone light and curious, not serious or critical.

Try this:
"Hey, I’ve been thinking about ways we can have even more fun together… want to hear something kind of hot?"

2. Use “I” Statements (Not Blame Games)

“I” statements are your best friend. They help you own your desires without making your partner feel like they’re doing something wrong.

✅ “I love it when you kiss my neck—can we do more of that?”
❌ “You never do what I like.”

This keeps the vibe collaborative instead of defensive. You're not critiquing—you're co-creating pleasure.

3. Be Playful, Not Pressured

If you're asking for more flavor, more foreplay, or just more fun, wrap it in a little flirt. It’s okay to laugh, blush, and even get silly. Not every conversation has to be TED Talk-level serious.

Sweetums tip: Leave a flavored wipe or lip balm out with a cheeky note. Something like:

"Wanna try this later? Tastes like cherry. 😉"

4. Drop Hints with Sensory Cues

Sometimes the best way to start the convo is… without words. Swipe on your Sweet Spot flavored fragrance, share a juicy-smelling kiss, or cuddle up with a confident glow. Let your body language and vibe say, “I’m into this. Are you?”

Pro tip: Scent and flavor trigger emotional memory and arousal, so products that feel sensual and taste good can open the door to deeper connection.

5. Normalize Changing Desires

What you wanted a year ago might be different now—and that’s okay. Frame new desires as evolution, not dissatisfaction.

Try this:
"I've been curious about something new and would love to try it with you. Want to explore together?"

This keeps the door open and inviting, not intimidating.

6. Celebrate the Good Stuff, Too

Don’t just talk about what you want to change—talk about what’s already working. Compliment their effort, energy, or your favorite moves. Positive reinforcement builds confidence and trust, making it easier to keep the convo going.

Final Swipe ✨

Talking about your needs shouldn’t feel awkward—it should feel empowering, exciting, and maybe even… hot. 💅

And just like our products, your communication style can be sweet, bold, and totally swipe-worthy.

So go ahead. Say what you want. You’re not asking too much. You’re asking for connection. And that’s the most intimate thing of all.